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The Secret to Actually Living Your Dream Life

I’m going out on a limb here to talk about goals. Why? Because that’s what you do every year. Set goals...and forget about them. I hope to convince you over the next few weeks through 10 life lessons of a better way to achieve your dreams. Let’s begin.

Lesson 1: Start With Your Roots

Erik Erikson said “In the social jungle of human existence, there is no feeling of being alive without a sense of identity.” So how do you find identity in the middle of a social jungle? Ask yourself this.

What makes you

Life gets noisy. Social gurus, Instagram stars, and marketing geniuses flood the web with plenty of get rich schemes. What people really want to hear is your unique story.

You are one of a kind. No one else thinks, acts, or plays the flute quite like you can.

Upon graduating college I was offered an interview at a prestigious investment company. They paid for a flight and hotel. The morning of the interview a driver escorted me through a huge gated entrance.

I sat in the lobby with 20 other suited applicants waiting for the moment of truth. The time for my interview came and I was asked what I wanted to do at this company.

“I want to write,” I replied.

I would love to tell you that I was offered a high paying copywriting job, but I was practically ushered out the door. No instant miracle to follow.

But I realized it’s better to stand out and find yourself than to blend in and lose yourself.

One honest voice is louder than hundreds following the crowd. We worry so much about what people think about us that we forget what we actually think about ourselves.
It’s better to stand out and find yourself than to blend in and lose yourself.
Take some time this year to get to know the person in the mirror.

The gap between knowledge and action

So after you know who you are is that it?

Knowing something and doing something about it are two very separate things. I can know that I want to be a great writer but not actually write a thing. I can know that I want to play sports and never practice.

We tell ourselves what we would like to be but the daily grind get’s in the way of action. Tomorrow's turn into yesterday's when we realize who we want to be but do nothing to become that person.

Stop dreaming, start living

The real secret to finding yourself is this. Knowledge combined with action brings identity.

Know + Do = Become
So let’s put this all into practice. If I know I want to be a writer, I need to write. When I write I actually become a writer. Simple. Here are a few other examples.
  • I want to be a bodybuilder so I need to workout
  • I want to be a better father so I need to spend time with my family
  • I want to be a dancer so I need to dance
I often ask myself if I act on the things that I know. Am I better today than I was yesterday? I hope this post helped you realize that the only thing standing in the way of your true identity is yourself.

Hope you enjoyed this post on finding your roots. Be sure to come back later this week for lesson 2.


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